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Bitter or Better?

Let’s face it – we’ve all been wronged in this life in one way or another.  We may have recently or in the past, experienced such a hurtful situation that we are left feeling bitter. Some examples of such experiences are: a marriage breakdown, the loss of a child, being childless, being overlooked for that well-deserved promotion at work, betrayal by a long-time friend, the unfair loss of one’s job after years of dedicated service, and the list goes on.

We have a choice in these hurtful life experiences: will they make us bitter for the rest of our lives or will they make us better people? But you might object – how can a very hurtful and unfair situation in our life possibly makes us better people? Here’s the secret:

(1) BITTER – The “I” in bitter stands for just that. When we focus on ourselves and what we have lost or suffered in the particular hurtful experience, we become and can remain bitter for the rest of our lives.  We compound the hurt with more hurt and the world around us becomes even darker with our added bitterness.  The “Enemy” smiles because he is succeeding in making the world a worse place.


(2) BETTER – The “E” in better stands for Eternity. When we focus on the value of suffering in God’s plan of salvation as was revealed by Jesus’ own suffering to save us, we realize that we are participating in God’s plan to save the world. What we have lost or suffered in the particular hurtful experience can make us better if we unite our sufferings to that of Jesus. We become and remain better for all eternity!

So the choice is ours: Bitter or Better,  “I” or “Eternity”, my plan or God’s plan, self-centered or God-centered?  Make the smart choice and the world will become a brighter place!


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